Anyway, had a birthday dinner for my waipo yesterday :)
It was a dinner which masked the unhappy things that happened in our family these few weeks.
Yet some things can never be completely hidden, and some revelations opened my eyes up to a few things.
Sometimes, we tend to harp on the past for relationships. Because past makes present. It might take some time for you to mend your broken relationships with let's say, your friend. However, harping on it in the present would not do anything to help the relationship, but instead, harm it. In the past, there might be some people who did not treat you as well, and you still hold on to that fact today. However, isn't it better if you take the opportunity and start treating them well right now? At least you know you formed a "new" relationship with that someone and you have gotten over the previous phase. You won't have any regrets thus far. These people can include your family even. Maybe you have "Hi's and Bye's" relationship with your parents. You can start by taking the initiative. I realised it's a very Asian thing for such relationships. It is filial piety. I remembered Dr Jen telling me that at 17, she moved out of her parent's house. I was shocked. It meant that if I lived in the US, I'll probably have my own apartment now. However, that's the special thing about my relationship with my parents. We live with them, and we are closely knitted. I wasn't close with my waipo before, but i decided to at least talk to her. That's what the intergenerational drama project taught me. Before I treat others' grandparents well, I should treat my own well. Yesterday was definitely a great dinner and it made me more empathetic as well.
Some pictures with my waipo and my mummy. omg my mum is like a photocopy of my waipo.
My mum is attempting to tighten her face so as to smoothen the wrinkles HAHHAA.
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